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      03-10-2021, 06:52 AM   #8251
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He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see me for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this morning, since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?
He's a surgeon and he lives out of town. It's not unreasonable that he was tied up with friends. You aren't wrong for saying no...no one is available all the time.
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      03-10-2021, 11:31 AM   #8252
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I don’t think you’re wrong at all. My perspective is all relationships, especially romantic ones, require some level of sacrifice from all parties.
This. People make time for the things they want to make time for.

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He can try again next weekend, if I’m free.
If you agree to do this you are condoning said behavior. My $.02, do as you please.
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      03-10-2021, 07:02 PM   #8253
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This. People make time for the things they want to make time for.



If you agree to do this you are condoning said behavior. My $.02, do as you please.
Already deleted him out of my phone. He's too slow
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This dude's Bumble profile reads:

Prompt: Perfect first date
His answer: Steak and BJ

Prompt: Turn offs
His answer: Squirters


Like WTF........ how do these guys ever expect someone to swipe right
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      03-10-2021, 09:06 PM   #8255
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This dude's Bumble profile reads:

Prompt: Perfect first date
His answer: Steak and BJ

Prompt: Turn offs
His answer: Squirters


Like WTF........ how do these guys ever expect someone to swipe right
I think it's what they call the spray and pray technique. If a guy on a dating site sends 100 messages to women saying "wanna fuck?" all it takes is one to say yes and he's achieved his goal - and probably pissed off 99 other women who get sick of the junk they receive. But the one who said yes means he and other men will keep trying it. A friend at university said he's done it in person at a night club - approached small groups of women, chatted briefly, and then asked "anyone want a fuck?" - he said he's been slapped and had drinks tossed on him, but he's also left with a fair number of them too.

This guy is just being honest up front. Probably a turn off to 99% of women, but one woman will be hungry and horny and decide "why the fuck not" and then he gets what he wants.
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I think it's what they call the spray and pray technique. If a guy on a dating site sends 100 messages to women saying "wanna fuck?" all it takes is one to say yes and he's achieved his goal - and probably pissed off 99 other women who get sick of the junk they receive. But the one who said yes means he and other men will keep trying it. A friend at university said he's done it in person at a night club - approached small groups of women, chatted briefly, and then asked "anyone want a fuck?" - he said he's been slapped and had drinks tossed on him, but he's also left with a fair number of them too.

This guy is just being honest up front. Probably a turn off to 99% of women, but one woman will be hungry and horny and decide "why the fuck not" and then he gets what he wants.
And then there are the ones with charming profiles and pictures, you meet them and they just want to fuck. Why are guys such fuck boys?! I’m over it. Get a flesh light.
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      03-10-2021, 09:21 PM   #8257
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And then there are the ones with charming profiles and pictures, you meet them and they just want to fuck. Why are guys such fuck boys?! I’m over it. Get a flesh light.
Ah yes - the sad life of the good looking guy. They're fuckboys because they know they can. Same thing - chat to 100 women who are all swooning over their photo, meet them, and one will agree. Score!

Women "don't want players" but fall for them all the time because they want good looking charming guys - who know they can play women. It's a vicious cycle.
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      03-10-2021, 09:24 PM   #8258
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Ah yes - the sad life of the good looking guy. They're fuckboys because they know they can. Same thing - chat to 100 women who are all swooning over their photo, meet them, and one will agree. Score!

Women "don't want players" but fall for them all the time because they want good looking charming guys - who know they can play women. It's a vicious cycle.
And the argument from the other side:

“Who do all women just want to talk and talk and talk and....”

Rather than lament the opposite, embrace it or your lifetime supply of batteries and pints of ice cream. We are both programmed and can alter it some, but our primitive nature will always win out.

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Ah yes - the sad life of the good looking guy. They're fuckboys because they know they can. Same thing - chat to 100 women who are all swooning over their photo, meet them, and one will agree. Score!

Women "don't want players" but fall for them all the time because they want good looking charming guys - who know they can play women. It's a vicious cycle.
He was better looking in his photos. It’s not fair to post a photo from 2016 as your main profile picture. There needs to be a 6 month limit, especially since 2020 and people (not me) have gained the “quarantine 15.”
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He was better looking in his photos. It’s not fair to post a photo from 2016 as your main profile picture. There needs to be a 6 month limit, especially since 2020 and people (not me) have gained the “quarantine 15.”
I've been told I look better than my photos but that wouldn't be hard
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I've been told I look better than my photos but that wouldn't be hard
Most guys actually do look better than their photos. 99% of them
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Most guys actually do look better than their photos. 99% of them
Damn. I thought it was just me
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Damn. I thought it was just me
Trust me, you don’t want to catfish a woman. Chance of sex would be 0%
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      03-10-2021, 09:44 PM   #8264
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Trust me, you don’t want to catfish a woman. Chance of sex would be 0%
That's about my chance anyway
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That's about my chance anyway
Have you tried any of our previous suggestions? It's been about what? 6 weeks? Any lucky ladies yet?
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      03-10-2021, 09:56 PM   #8266
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Have you tried any of our previous suggestions? It's been about what? 6 weeks? Any lucky ladies yet?
Right now I am just doing what I can to keep myself alive and sane. I feel like I have to protect my company from the insanely stupid people we have employed and that's taking all my energy and sucking the life out of me.

I'm only on here for comic relief.
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Right now I am just doing what I can to keep myself alive and sane. I feel like I have to protect my company from the insanely stupid people we have employed and that's taking all my energy and sucking the life out of me.

I'm only on here for comic relief.
No bueno. Well hopefully you at least got your crazy lady friend to hit the road
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No bueno. Well hopefully you at least got your crazy lady friend to hit the road
Yeah - just me and the miniature murder mutt now.
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      03-11-2021, 01:10 AM   #8269
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This dude's Bumble profile reads:

Prompt: Perfect first date
His answer: Steak and BJ

Prompt: Turn offs
His answer: Squirters


Like WTF........ how do these guys ever expect someone to swipe right
This chap is a keeper. He is clearly 100% honest, and speaks his mind

I understand your issue with his answers, but really I think he's just after a different thing than you. Swipe left and move on
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      03-11-2021, 05:50 AM   #8270
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Trust me, you don’t want to catfish a woman. Chance of sex would be 0%

And that is why when I date, it's someone that is within arm's reach. I know who they are and how they look. Guys that I've met peripherally either through work, hobbies or sports. Attachment 2549444

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And then there are the ones with charming profiles and pictures, you meet them and they just want to fuck. Why are guys such fuck boys?! I’m over it. .
Go old school. Get off of the dating site/apps and go out into the real world.
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To chime in here, let's not forget what we are and who we are. Men are simple creatures, whose genetic make up programs us to spread the seed and procreate....it seriously comes down to just this. Women are more complex creatures that are genetically programed to attract males, bear children and nurture. Everything else is a façade that we have built in our minds to only get to this point.

I'm not saying the methods used on either side are always desirable by the other, but this is what it comes down to. Men deal with this as well, but in other manners. Women can be extremely aggressive in getting what they want and aren't always necessarily honest about who they are or their intentions. This is the complexity end. Men fall for it every time because we simple and need to procreate.
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