[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Megabrode

I have not read 355 pages of this thread. I'm just lobbing in a dating story, which may require some background...

I will be 75 years of age in 11 days. I married twice. First marriage ended after five years when I found my wife in bed with her boss. A period of dating followed -- though my circle didn't "date" per se in Berkeley in the 70s. We just paired off. Second marriage lasted 42 years, produced three sons, and ended three years ago when my wife died. It was cancer. I quit my job and moved to a new city.

After a year I started online dating. First day on any site, a widow contacted me. Avant guarde artist, articulate, smart, beautiful, very open. My type. We resonated, or so I thought. We met several times. Then she said, "We want different things." What I wanted was probably way too obvious. She ended it.

I decided to lose weight, ultimately 75 lbs. My daughter-in-law helped me choose some hip clothes that actually fit. I continued dating via multiple sites, meeting maybe 40 women over two years. Almost all were one and done (coffee or drink, that is). A few I met several times. Three or four got more serious, more physical. All, from my perspective (warped in part by grief over my dead wife), had at least one fatal flaw -- whether inability to ask a question, totally incompatible world view, or STD. I ended all of them, nicely. But I guess I left a few pissed-off women, some of whom warned their friends about me, limiting the dating pool in this town. When the pandemic hit, further shrinking the possibilities, I grew discouraged and quit all the apps.

Still, that two-year process left me with renewed confidence, patience, and a clear sense of what I wanted -- in short, much more than physical attraction.

Last fall, from time to time I would think, "I wish I'd met Ms. Avant Guarde two years later." Maybe I wouldn't have been so pushy, at the same time so unsure of myself.

Then, on December 26, I'm driving my M3 aimlessly in the hills outside town. I stop to look at the river. I get a text. Ms. Avant Garde says, "I thought of you and am surprised we have not run into each other." Etc. Yes, this relationship rose from the dead. With time together, she's confirmed my initial impressions, and I've yet to see a fatal flaw. Let's hope she doesn't find the several lurking in me. Where is it going? Hard to say. But I expect it to get there relatively soon. We've both been Pfizered. Second shot in two weeks.

Lately I feel like that Fedex guy in the final scene of "Cast Away." Maybe my favorite movie.

Fantastic read and well done sir. A true champion of life you are.

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

You sir are my idol! Hats off to you.
I give you so much credit for adapting to current times. I can’t and won’t. I don’t get why people can’t meet people the old fashioned way. In person! I don’t get the texting instead of talking and the online swipe instead of meeting people while going about your life. Maybe this belongs in the You know you’re old when thread. I will not do online dating profile.

Good luck to you!

This. Every word.

[King Rudi]

Loving the input of the ladies on here. Thank you.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

You sir are my idol! Hats off to you.
I give you so much credit for adapting to current times. I can’t and won’t. I don’t get why people can’t meet people the old fashioned way. In person! I don’t get the texting instead of talking and the online swipe instead of meeting people while going about your life. Maybe this belongs in the You know you’re old when thread. I will not do online dating profile.

Good luck to you!

Not to take away from what you've said about Megabrode, but the male perspective of meeting someone is completely different than a female's perspective especially in this day and age. It's much smarter to try and vet a complete stranger than to just meet them. Knowing even just a little bit about this person is much safer than not knowing anything. I'm not saying every guy is bad, but as a female you have to be a lot more cautious nowadays.

I had this conversation with a guy friend who matched a girl and THE NEXT DAY he invited her over to his house to spend the weekend because they hit it off via text. She lives in Philly and he's in DC. I grilled him on how irresponsible that is on both their parts. I know he's a good guy, but she doesn't know that and shame on her for being willing to drive 4 hours to a complete stranger's house that she's "known" 24 hours of texting.

I just don't get why you wouldn't want to be safe. That's just me. I can't trust someone after one day of texting. It has to be earned.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Not to take away from what you've said about Megabrode, but the male perspective of meeting someone is completely different than a female's perspective especially in this day and age. It's much smarter to try and vet a complete stranger than to just meet them. Knowing even just a little bit about this person is much safer than not knowing anything. I'm not saying every guy is bad, but as a female you have to be a lot more cautious nowadays.

I had this conversation with a guy friend who matched a girl and THE NEXT DAY he invited her over to his house to spend the weekend because they hit it off via text. She lives in Philly and he's in DC. I grilled him on how irresponsible that is on both their parts. I know he's a good guy, but she doesn't know that and shame on her for being willing to drive 4 hours to a complete strangers house that she's "known" 24 hours of texting.

I just don't get why you wouldn't want to be safe. That's just me. I can't trust someone after one day of texting. It has to be earned.

Yeah, and you learn a lot about a person from their online BS and what they say in a text? It's amazing I'm still alive being I'm a 57 year old female. Looking someone in their eyes, shaking their hand, listening to what they say and how they say it and watching their body language will tell you a lot about someone.

As far as going to stay at someone's house you never met after 24 hours of texting - you can't fix stupid.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

The good ole days. We had good times here in OT.

Originally Posted by fiveohwblow

Le sad, I missed the good stuff.

Here is a classic. I recommend removing any and all sharp objects from nearby as well as hot liquids. You could hurt yourself laughing.

https://bmwi.bimmerpost.com/forums/s...d.php?t=543909

[Sara]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Yeah, and you learn a lot about a person from their online BS and what they say in a text? It's amazing I'm still alive being I'm a 57 year old female. Looking someone in their eyes, shaking their hand, listening to what they say and how they say it and watching their body language will tell you a lot about someone.

As far as going to stay at someone's house you never met after 24 hours of texting - you can't fix stupid.

You can learn a bit. Especially on MD Case Search

For me, I like to connect with someone, see if they can keep a conversation with me for a least a week, two if I'm busy, and then discuss the possibility of meeting up for a date. I've had guys who match with me and ask to meet up the very same night. Those automatically get unmatched.

The guy I'm talking to now, we connected in July 2019, added each other on social media and had our first date November 24th, 2020. He waited nearly a year and a half to date me, but he is definitely worth the wait.... so far lol.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Yeah, and you learn a lot about a person from their online BS and what they say in a text? It's amazing I'm still alive being I'm a 57 year old female. Looking someone in their eyes, shaking their hand, listening to what they say and how they say it and watching their body language will tell you a lot about someone.

As far as going to stay at someone's house you never met after 24 hours of texting - you can't fix stupid.

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

This has always been my modus operandi. I'm not on any social platforms either, let alone dating sites. And I like to squeeze the produces in the veggie aisle for freshness as well. he he...

Background checks. I get them before I meet. I've had some REALLY bad experiences with stalker ex's. REALLY BAD.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Megabrode

I have not read 355 pages of this thread. I'm just lobbing in a dating story, which may require some background...

I will be 75 years of age in 11 days. I married twice. First marriage ended after five years when I found my wife in bed with her boss. A period of dating followed -- though my circle didn't "date" per se in Berkeley in the 70s. We just paired off. Second marriage lasted 42 years, produced three sons, and ended three years ago when my wife died. It was cancer. I quit my job and moved to a new city.

After a year I started online dating. First day on any site, a widow contacted me. Avant guarde artist, articulate, smart, beautiful, very open. My type. We resonated, or so I thought. We met several times. Then she said, "We want different things." What I wanted was probably way too obvious. She ended it.

I decided to lose weight, ultimately 75 lbs. My daughter-in-law helped me choose some hip clothes that actually fit. I continued dating via multiple sites, meeting maybe 40 women over two years. Almost all were one and done (coffee or drink, that is). A few I met several times. Three or four got more serious, more physical. All, from my perspective (warped in part by grief over my dead wife), had at least one fatal flaw -- whether inability to ask a question, totally incompatible world view, or STD. I ended all of them, nicely. But I guess I left a few pissed-off women, some of whom warned their friends about me, limiting the dating pool in this town. When the pandemic hit, further shrinking the possibilities, I grew discouraged and quit all the apps.

Still, that two-year process left me with renewed confidence, patience, and a clear sense of what I wanted -- in short, much more than physical attraction.

Last fall, from time to time I would think, "I wish I'd met Ms. Avant Guarde two years later." Maybe I wouldn't have been so pushy, at the same time so unsure of myself.

Then, on December 26, I'm driving my M3 aimlessly in the hills outside town. I stop to look at the river. I get a text. Ms. Avant Garde says, "I thought of you and am surprised we have not run into each other." Etc. Yes, this relationship rose from the dead. With time together, she's confirmed my initial impressions, and I've yet to see a fatal flaw. Let's hope she doesn't find the several lurking in me. Where is it going? Hard to say. But I expect it to get there relatively soon. We've both been Pfizered. Second shot in two weeks.

Lately I feel like that Fedex guy in the final scene of "Cast Away." Maybe my favorite movie.

as i read this, i was visualizing every event like a dam movie.

[Dang3r]

So far I am very glad that there are no pictures of me into the www - let me shrink this to company related or accidentially glitched onto them.
For Sara Im quite sure I would be an instant swiper

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

So far I am very glad that there are no pictures of me into the www - let me shrink this to company related or accidentially glitched onto them.
For Sara Im quite sure I would be an instant swiper

I find it very odd that there are people who have bumble and hinge accounts with no photos of themselves

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I find it very odd that there are people who have bumble and hinge accounts with no photos of themselves

Says Ms. long legs into her profile pic.
Oh, I saw your pre/post mod pics here pages ago, but those are not counting.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

Says Ms. long legs into her profile pic.
Oh, I saw your pre/post mod pics here pages ago, but those are not counting.

Ha, that's been my avatar since 2014. I'm not on here to date anyone.

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Ha, that's been my avatar since 2014. I'm not on here to date anyone.

Me neither, so everything is fine.

[Turkish Pickle]

damn, i missed all the fun

re: online dating:: its fun if you don't take it seriously, i once sent fake bank statements (10 minute excel work) after a chick said she learned her long term bf was also paying child support on the side

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I had one, a lawyer actually who should know better, show up at my apartment in DC (he lived in ATL at the time, so he flew up, and then took the metro to my place) while I was out playing paintball. When I didn't answer, he told me he went into the parking garage to look for my vehicle, when he didn't see it he went back to my apartment door took a photo of himself in front of my apartment and texted it to me.

I was like WTF....and isn't he just the sweetest human being?

Whiskey. Tango. Foxtrot.
What a tool bag. You should have reported him to the police. UNREAL!

The one that turned it for me was the ex of the person I was dating who put a tracker on her car and mine, took pictures outside of her home, hacked her email, tracked her to my home and blew up the phone when we were in the house. He was calling from the street in front of my home. I was done.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Whiskey. Tango. Foxtrot.
What a tool bag. You should have reported him to the police. UNREAL!

The one that turned it for me was the ex of the person I was dating who put a tracker on her car and mine, took pictures outside of her home, hacked her email, tracked her to my home and blew up the phone when we were in the house. He was calling from the street in front of my home. I was done.

He actually has a stalking 3rd offense charge and a felony B&E from apparently trying to make amends with his ex and letting himself into her place in 2004. I didn't know any of this until after we spilt up in December 2018 when he moved away. And he showed up at my apartment in October of 2019! Ten months after we split. Who does that?

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Sara504

I had one, a lawyer actually who should know better, show up at my apartment in DC (he lived in ATL at the time, so he flew up, and then took the metro to my place) while I was out playing paintball. When I didn't answer, he told me he went into the parking garage to look for my vehicle, when he didn't see it he went back to my apartment door took a photo of himself in front of my apartment and texted it to me.

I was like WTF....and isn't he just the sweetest human being?

WTF how does any sane human think it's okay to just show up at someone's apartment? And then on top of it be a dick about you not being there.

[Megabrode]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

as i read this, i was visualizing every event like a dam movie.

Very nice comment. Thank you! Not too surprising, though, since I'm a filmmaker. I hadn't actually thought of my own story in cinematic terms. Hmm... A feature film would be seriously episodic, with incidents covering 50 years with yoyo weight from 165 to 265 to 185. Virtuosic costume magic and make-up artistry required! This would be perfect for Tom Hanks and Robert Zemeckis! (snowball in hell)

[Sara]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

WTF how does any sane human think it's okay to just show up at someone's apartment? And then on top of it be a dick about you not being there.

He's never happy. Good riddance.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I don’t get why people can’t meet people the old fashioned way. In person! I don’t get the texting instead of talking and the online swipe instead of meeting people while going about your life.

+1.

I'm 45 and absolutely refuse to do any online/app based dating. Anything worthwhile that's ever happened in my life has happened organically, including romance. Dating apps to me are just another video game you play on your phone to kill time. Go out and meet real, live people FFS.

Originally Posted by Sara504

I had one, a lawyer actually who should know better, show up at my apartment in DC (he lived in ATL at the time, so he flew up, and then took the metro to my place) while I was out playing paintball. When I didn't answer, he told me he went into the parking garage to look for my vehicle, when he didn't see it he went back to my apartment door took a photo of himself in front of my apartment and texted it to me.

I was like WTF....and isn't he just the sweetest human being?

Narcissist. They're easy to spot once you know what to look for.

[Mein11]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Wait, with a join date of 2020, who are you?

I'm not sure you truly care to know.

[Mein11]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

That's reaching back. It was the wild wild west back then. The ban hammer fell without reservation!!

LOL!!

There were some EPIC threads back then. Remember "The Doll Thread"?

It'd be funny to revive old threads, but the zest of OT has sailed, and it's best preserved stored in the archives.