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      03-02-2021, 09:04 AM   #8229
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I was reading some motivational magazione at my brother's house a week or two ago, and the emotional control was even in there. Give "it" a name, and then use the name to help you at least recognize when said emotional character is present.

I've been seeing a lot of Wreck-It-Ralph of late, but it did help me to tone down the "discussion" with my wife when we went to the whole "I don't know" = "Wede doesn't give a fuck, and not going to help you" routine.

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      03-02-2021, 10:44 AM   #8231
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I was reading some motivational magazione at my brother's house a week or two ago, and the emotional control was even in there. Give "it" a name, and then use the name to help you at least recognize when said emotional character is present.

I've been seeing a lot of Wreck-It-Ralph of late, but it did help me to tone down the "discussion" with my wife when we went to the whole "I don't know" = "Wede doesn't give a fuck, and not going to help you" routine.

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Oh boy. Good first step but how many time have you apologized?
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MK's story just circles back to my motto, no irrational or crazy. So much irrational and crazy out there.

I'm married but i'll throw one out so i can vent. We got a book shelf for our five year old, mrs wanted in front of his window that has a shutter, i said that's gonna end badly as to open the shutter you need to remove everything from the top of the shelf. I'm not dying on this hill though so install it where she wants it.

2 months later I open the shutter, all the shit from his shelf falls. She picks "everything" up. Kid's lips are cracked so needs his chapstick, it's not there and she moans how I lost it and we need to order another one. Now, we have issues with spending money, she makes a ton more than i do but spends proportionally even more.

I a can be short fused so consciously did not raise my voice but admit i was a bit...how you say...my voice had rolled eyes in it so to speak. I said, "it has to be up there, it is on the floor". Cue the mother of all meltdown, she absolutely loses her fucking mind.

I go upstairs and find the chapstick right near the shelf.

Needless grief over nothing.
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      03-02-2021, 11:23 AM   #8233
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Oh boy. Good first step but how many time have you apologized?
I get tired of being the only one who apologizes. OK, MAYBE 99% of the time it's my fault, but every once it a while it must be her fault
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I get tired of being the only one who apologizes. OK, MAYBE 99% of the time it's my fault, but every once it a while it must be her fault
Thats no valid logic to proof. What do you ASSume is, that everybody make mistakes or mishaps after a certain time period
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Thats no valid logic to proof. What do you ASSume is, that everybody make mistakes or mishaps after a certain time period
After 20+ years, yes, she has made mistakes. Just because SHE doesn't like a particular tree in the yard (MY domain) doesn't mean she should call someone to kill my tree and rip it out.

There are more decisions that are made in a vacuum, and then I get treated as one of her children when I want to have a discussion on the decision she has already made. We are SUPPOSED to be a team.
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I didn't think it was possible to make her look any zanier but you, sir, have achieved perfection!!!

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After 20+ years, yes, she has made mistakes. Just because SHE doesn't like a particular tree in the yard (MY domain) doesn't mean she should call someone to kill my tree and rip it out.

There are more decisions that are made in a vacuum, and then I get treated as one of her children when I want to have a discussion on the decision she has already made. We are SUPPOSED to be a team.
There may be no "I" in team, but there certainly is a "me".

Best of luck! I pick the hills I want to die on. Surprisingly, there are few hills good enough for me, so its fairly rare. We usually compromise because we are a team.
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Thank-you, milady!!

I spoke to pennsiveguy Sunday evening to let him know it was probably coming and I feel completely relieved that it is done.

This is how I know it was the right thing to do.
Sorry to hear what happened man, hope you're doing okay

How is pennsiveguy doing? I miss seeing him around here
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How is pennsiveguy doing? I miss seeing him around here
Thanks! I'm good...more relieved because I knew it wasn't the right relationship!!

Pennsiveguy is doing well! I will tell him you asked about him!
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After 20+ years, yes, she has made mistakes. Just because SHE doesn't like a particular tree in the yard (MY domain) doesn't mean she should call someone to kill my tree and rip it out.

There are more decisions that are made in a vacuum, and then I get treated as one of her children when I want to have a discussion on the decision she has already made. We are SUPPOSED to be a team.
Wait, wut? It concerns a tree in the yard that she would get rid of it?
Even if you are master of your domain I assume that you had talked to her to plant this poultrytree before it got done, aint? When you live into a household where all decisions should and had made as team, this hadnt occure.
But I know women who treat their partners sometimes like their childs when something went wrong.
When Im the next time onto my way to Santa Barbara I would chime in when passing Oxnard to be your bystander at anger management
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Wait, wut? It concerns a tree in the yard that she would get rid of it?
Even if you are master of your domain I assume that you had talked to her to plant this poultrytree before it got done, aint? When you live into a household where all decisions should and had made as team, this hadnt occure.
But I know women who treat their partners sometimes like their childs when something went wrong.
When Im the next time onto my way to Santa Barbara I would chime in when passing Oxnard to be your bystander at anger management
Just wave at Santa as you pass by on 101, I'll hear you
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Do you really think its acceptable to not text nearly all weekend and then at 9:30 AM this morning text "coffee and breakfast before I head out?"

I've already eaten. Like who does he think he is? He can't honestly think I'm available 24/7. I may be laying around in my pajamas currently, but no. That kinda ticked me off a bit. Am I wrong?
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Do you really think its acceptable to not text nearly all weekend and then at 9:30 AM this morning text "coffee and breakfast before I head out?"

I've already eaten. Like who does he think he is? He can't honestly think I'm available 24/7. I may be laying around in my pajamas currently, but no. That kinda ticked me off a bit. Am I wrong?
I’ve a friend that thinks this way. Quite vein, very self centered and worse, wholly unaware he is this way. May be a similar person, may not.
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I’ve a friend that thinks this way. Quite vein, very self centered and worse, wholly unaware he is this way. May be a similar person, may not.
I feel like it’s in poor taste in his part. We haven’t met yet. Been texting for about 2 weeks. He’s a surgeon so I know his schedule can be a bit hectic. He doesn’t have the typical 9-5 like I do. We text every day. He suggested on Wednesday that we meet up this weekend in the evening for dinner and drinks. I said that I’d like that. We never set an official time. He didn’t respond to my text on Friday. Barely texted me yesterday, and then morning sends me the above referenced text. Just no. Sorry, have other plans now. He can try again next weekend, if I’m free.
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I feel like it’s in poor taste in his part. We haven’t met yet. Been texting for about 2 weeks. He’s a surgeon so I know his schedule can be a bit hectic. He doesn’t have the typical 9-5 like I do. We text every day. He suggested on Wednesday that we meet up this weekend in the evening for dinner and drinks. I said that I’d like that. We never set an official time. He didn’t respond to my text on Friday. Barely texted me yesterday, and then morning sends me the above referenced text. Just no. Sorry, have other plans now. He can try again next weekend, if I’m free.
With more context, this sounds more like something or someone took precedent and that “thing” is now gone.
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With more context, this sounds more like something or someone took precedent and that “thing” is now gone.
He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see me for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this morning, since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?
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He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this weekend since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?
I don’t think you’re wrong at all. My perspective is all relationships, especially romantic ones, require some level of sacrifice from all parties. Seems in this scenerio from the insight we have, it is only you who sacrificed.
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He says he was with his friends. Which I believe him as he lives an hour away and has a condo in New Orleans to escape the small town where he lives. He comes to New Orleans often enough to purchase a second home here. But it's the fact that he asked to take me to dinner, so I made sure I didn't have plans Friday or Saturday night, and now he wants to see me before he heads out this afternoon. Like no, you're not going to try to see me for the first time last minute. I have plans with my girlfriend to get drinks this afternoon and other shit I need to get done this morning, since I had previously cleared my schedule. It's probably an oversight on his part, but he's just going to have to wait to meet me, if we still continue to text this week.

I'm not wrong for saying no, right?
Not wrong at all.

You might even tell him you'd love to, but when he asked you to have dinner you moved everything from Friday and Saturday night into Sunday ....
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