03-20-2021, 10:56 AM | #8449 |
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Made a connection on Match about a week ago. She is highly educated, 5'-4", 117#, 38 years old and lives about 3.5 hours away. She's from South Louisiana and Creole like me so when we finally spoke earlier this week, the first thing we did was the entire genealogy discussion to make certain we weren't related. It may seem funny but I actually met someone that was a cousin and we had to break off our conversation. We have spoken for the past 4 nights and it's been very comfortable and easy. We are planning on meeting in two weeks to see how everything goes. I will keep everyone posted.
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Awesome! You have my number for rescue!!
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03-20-2021, 01:02 PM | #8451 |
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I do?? Did you PM it to me? I don't see it in the recent messages.
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03-20-2021, 01:16 PM | #8453 | |
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People can't keep convos going naturally, like why bother if I took the time to write a thoughtful response and you just respond with one word answers... It's been endless swiping left for me recently. |
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My point is, those women all have lives they are living and if they matched you, they are interested. If my phone happens to be in my hand while I’m trouble shooting my stupid Dyson vacuum problems and I see your long, thoughtful message come across, I’ll most likely stop and read it and send a super quick reply and then get back to trouble shooting my Dyson and finishing my cleaning. Just be patient. Just don’t be the guy who sends 8 different messages on 6 different days trying to get a response, that’s a turn off. Last edited by Sara; 03-20-2021 at 02:45 PM.. |
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03-20-2021, 02:55 PM | #8455 |
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For me that wouldn't be good enough. If a match can't find the odd 5 mins a few times a day to reply to my message(s), how is she going to make time for me to go on dates etc etc?
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03-20-2021, 03:11 PM | #8457 | |
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So it's not that you're not worth 5 minutes of her time, it's that she's probably extremely busy at the moment and when she can, she'll get to you. |
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03-20-2021, 03:19 PM | #8458 | |
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03-20-2021, 03:41 PM | #8459 | |
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Tinder - 2 Coffee Meets Bagel - 4 Match - 2 I don't message them everyday. I just respond when I can and when I see they have responded (which is usually daily). I also don't double text or play games. If you haven't responded then I just leave it alone because like you said, people have lives and they'll get to shit when they get to shit. I guess I have a lot of time on my hands? |
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03-20-2021, 03:48 PM | #8460 | |
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It’s just too much for me to reply to everyone everyday and work full time, and be a mom, and go to the gym, and be a horse owner, and go out with my girlfriends... whew. So you’re here thinking I’m ignoring you, when I’m really trying not to overwhelm myself and delete everyone all at once. That would be a lose lose situation for you and me. |
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03-20-2021, 03:52 PM | #8461 |
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I think this conversation turned into another conversation
What my intent was saying how someone replies with one word answers when I write thoughtful responses. It's like they don't know how to converse, are socially awkward, can't hold a conversation, don't really care, or something else? |
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I think I turned it into a whole other monster lol. Sorry!!! |
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03-20-2021, 04:01 PM | #8463 | |
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Now, stop taking time to respond to a random on bimmerpost and get back to your matches |
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Edit: No placement of my number on the girls bathroom wall or in the stalls. I have a reputation to consider!!
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03-20-2021, 04:31 PM | #8466 |
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You'll be fine.
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If he acts stupid, he's a complete idiot of epic proportions! Good luck!!
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03-20-2021, 05:55 PM | #8468 |
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I see why you get all the matches now, looking good!
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No response or super slow response (days/weeks) would have me thinking that I'm not #1 choice or close to it and I'd move on. Potentially a loss for both sides... But this is very much hypothetical anyhow; met my current partner on Tinder. She matched me and messaged straight away |
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You have many matches, and you're only conversing with a few - most likely those who are photogenic and come across well (especially Bumble, where you have to message first). You pick and choose who you allocate your time to based on their looks in their pictures, and the eloquence of their messages. And I should clarify, whilst I say "you", I'm applying this to women in general - not just you personally. Unless I underwent major cosmetic surgery that I'm not even sure is possible, I will not be photogenic. And I'm not a smooth talker either. I'm a shy introvert, conversations with strangers are very difficult until I start to learn their true passions and interests. I hate small talk with a passion, but it's necessary to get to know someone. So when it comes to spending your time to reply to me, I'm pretty much last resort - you have nobody better looking or more eloquent to talk to, so I'm it. Which pretty much means I won't hear from you. Ever. And that's if we matched in the first place, which we wouldn't. I have a grand total of 5 matches over 2 apps. One went to Florida in November, said she'd be in touch when she got back mid December. One has made no effort to make conversation since January - I asked her a lot about herself, she answered - when I stop asking, she stops talking. Don't think she ever once asked me a question about anything. And the remaining 3 I sent an initial message to, and have not heard a word in over 3 months. Should I keep waiting until they find themselves so bored they reduce themselves to me, or just cut them off now and unmatch? Therein lies the difference for males and females in dating apps, and that's why I cannot be bothered any more. If I am ever to meet someone, it will be in person the old fashioned way, because then at least I know if I speak words to your face and you do not respond, you're not worth speaking to. |
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