WTF is the matter with some poeple at my work?!?!?!

T-MC-G · 03-09-2010, 10:12 AM

OK, need to vent for a sec... Anyone ever been in this situation before?

At work there are like 2-3 of us (all same age group 24-27) who usually go out to lunch together. I love going out for lunch because it gets me out of the office for a while to re-group. To me and the guys I go out with it's totally worth the $8-15 for lunch during the day. Anyways, there is this new guy who seems cool enough and keeps on asking to join us for lunch. No big deal but here is the problem, he brings his own brown bag lunch everyday. He stated on the first day we all went out that he thought "spending money on lunch out was a waste". This kid literally walks into the restaurant with us sits down and eats his lunch. The other day he actually asked the server for a glass of water. I am very embarrassed to go out with him but he is always coming up to us at like 10am asking about where we are all going for lunch and if he can join us. The first time it happened I told him that I didn't think the restaurant would allow it for health code reasons and he shouldn't do it. Once we left, he was all like, "See I told you it wasn't a big deal."

I don't want to be rude, but I'm about to basically cut this kid off. Am I wrong at all??? Anyone ever work in a restaurant before and have an opinion on this? We are talking places from like Chik-fil-a to Chili's, all different types of places doesn't matter to him.

MontegoGoGoGo · 03-09-2010, 10:20 AM

LMAO - wow. Maybe he has Asperger's? Never worked in a restaurant, but I think that's very weird, not to mention bad etiquette.

If you don't want to actually call him on it...next time he asks where you're going, say you're not sure and then just all leave without him. Do this a few times and he'll get the hint....unless he has Asperger's, haha.

Citizen Z · 03-09-2010, 10:21 AM

Tell him straight up that he's being low class about his restaurant etiquette. And then tell him to not be a douche and pony up his cheap-ass $8-15. This is a recession, the restaurants and wait staff need the coinage.

ACZakka325i · 03-09-2010, 10:22 AM

Well, aside from you not wanting to hang with him in the first place, I might tell him that its incredibly cheap and disrespectful to bring a home-made lunch into a place that sells lunch.

Sure he can come with you, but he has to actually dine in the restaurant to go there.

jimmy330xi · 03-09-2010, 10:30 AM

That's funny. He is geting the best of both worlds, eating out and eating for free. LOL. I wouldn't walk into a restaurant with my own lunch, that is just plain wrong, he probabbly don't even understand that, and if he can't understand what a simple concept like that is... then he probabbly won't understand other things and that's what you need to think about. This kid can get you in trouble maybe at work and not even realize what he is doing since he has a different perception. just my opinion. I have dealt with people like that and it only gets worse from there. Good luck.

CPI · 03-09-2010, 10:40 AM

A lot of places don't even allow outside food to be brought inside. Either way I think you have been too nice to the noob. Time to tell him to pony up or stay at work and eat his lunch. Or at least eat his lunch later and have an appetizer or coffee with you guys if he just wants to chat and hangout.

leocdmg · 03-09-2010, 10:40 AM

Well it depends is this guy doing it because he is cheap???? I mean I am the new guy and I chose to bring my own lunch only because I am on a diet. I still chat and talk sometimes I go but just dont eat. Hmmm maybe its a virginia thing cuz ive seen it a few times here and I am in Mclean

Cosmop · 03-09-2010, 10:47 AM

Tell him he has to pay to play

headlee103 · 03-09-2010, 10:47 AM

Next time you go out, get up and go to the restroom and find your waiter/waitress. Ask them to find your little tag along and tell him he can't bring his lunch there and he needs to throw it away or leave. I would make sure this is one of my favorite places for lunch, and continue to go back there. Make him feel like a douche!

RGM135i · 03-09-2010, 10:49 AM

Just out of curiosity...what does he drive?

shipill · 03-09-2010, 10:54 AM

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Just out of curiosity...what does he drive?

bicycle

ibeclueless · 03-09-2010, 10:55 AM

lol what a weird kid

Couch · 03-09-2010, 10:55 AM

I could see if he wanted to go every once in a while, even not eat just try and get familiar with all of you. But bring his brown bag lunch with yall? Wow.

I wouldn't knock him though if he was just wanting to go along.

Actually reminds me of a friend growing up. No matter where we ate with his family (large family) he brought mcdonalds. One of the pickiest eaters ever.

MTV · 03-09-2010, 10:59 AM

Just tell him straight up man.

Be like buddy, we don't mind you coming out with us... but you gotta stop bringing your own food!

Hawkeye · 03-09-2010, 10:59 AM

I would slip the waitress/waiter a $5 and ask them to tell him that outside food is not permitted. After a few places do that he will probably stop coming or just start buying food.

Peanuto · 03-09-2010, 11:22 AM

Call around, find 5 or 6 places that DO NOT ALLOW OUTSIDE FOOD. And only go there. Act like it is coincidence. Then when he eventually gives up go back to normal.

Scorpion · 03-09-2010, 11:44 AM

I want to try this at McDonalds and see if they kick me out lol.

Alexander · 03-09-2010, 11:47 AM

I hate people like that. I'd tell him straight up. Salt the Snail...

Gavin@MMW · 03-09-2010, 11:54 AM

OK i saw this thread and showed it to my lady, who is currently a server at 2 places and a full time student.

she says:

bringing in your own food to a restaurant is totally wrong. from a servers point of view thats taking money directly out of their pockets. which in turn will get you guys bad service, or some tampered food.

her advice:
tell him "your more then welcome to come to lunch with us, if you want to buy lunch"

hes the new guy, you gotta check him a little bit

Blake · 03-09-2010, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Cosmop

Tell him he has to pay to play

this is word for word what i would say

iBoost · 03-09-2010, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Craven 328

OK i saw this thread and showed it to my lady, who is currently a server at 2 places and a full time student.

she says:

bringing in your own food to a restaurant is totally wrong. from a servers point of view thats taking money directly out of their pockets. which in turn will get you guys bad service, or some tampered food.

her advice:
tell him "your more then welcome to come to lunch with us, if you want to buy lunch"

hes the new guy, you gotta check him a little bit

oh nooo dude! they've been fuhking with your food!!

Blake · 03-09-2010, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Scorpion

I want to try this at McDonalds and see if they kick me out lol.

they don't give a flying fuck at mcdonalds. you could walk in with 5 cocaine raged, loud hookers and they wouldn't give a shit.

03-09-2010, 10:12 AM	#1
T-MC-G Captain 72 Rep 671 Posts Drives: e90 325i Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Trier, Germany iTrader: (5)	WTF is the matter with some poeple at my work?!?!?! OK, need to vent for a sec... Anyone ever been in this situation before? At work there are like 2-3 of us (all same age group 24-27) who usually go out to lunch together. I love going out for lunch because it gets me out of the office for a while to re-group. To me and the guys I go out with it's totally worth the $8-15 for lunch during the day. Anyways, there is this new guy who seems cool enough and keeps on asking to join us for lunch. No big deal but here is the problem, he brings his own brown bag lunch everyday. He stated on the first day we all went out that he thought "spending money on lunch out was a waste". This kid literally walks into the restaurant with us sits down and eats his lunch. The other day he actually asked the server for a glass of water. I am very embarrassed to go out with him but he is always coming up to us at like 10am asking about where we are all going for lunch and if he can join us. The first time it happened I told him that I didn't think the restaurant would allow it for health code reasons and he shouldn't do it. Once we left, he was all like, "See I told you it wasn't a big deal." I don't want to be rude, but I'm about to basically cut this kid off. Am I wrong at all??? Anyone ever work in a restaurant before and have an opinion on this? We are talking places from like Chik-fil-a to Chili's, all different types of places doesn't matter to him. __________________ "tell me what you don't like about yourself..."
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Citizen Z Alpine Master 111 Rep 1,310 Posts Drives: '08 135i AW Sport Join Date: May 2008 Location: Kansas iTrader: (1)	Tell him straight up that he's being low class about his restaurant etiquette. And then tell him to not be a douche and pony up his cheap-ass $8-15. This is a recession, the restaurants and wait staff need the coinage. __________________ Alpine White with Taupe Leather 135i, Sports Package, Heated Seats, Comfort Access, iPod Adapter Fastness: http://www.1addicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=252727
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ACZakka325i Colonel 278 Rep 2,008 Posts Drives: 2 stroke Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: CT iTrader: (2)	Well, aside from you not wanting to hang with him in the first place, I might tell him that its incredibly cheap and disrespectful to bring a home-made lunch into a place that sells lunch. Sure he can come with you, but he has to actually dine in the restaurant to go there. __________________ (Waitlist): #1 M2CSL (Current): 2016 F15 X5 3.5xdrive - 2010 997.2 C4S Coupe (Past): 2016 F30 340xi M-Sport -2013 535i xdrive 2008 E92 M3 - 2006 E90 325i 2002 E46 325xi - 1991 E30 325i
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jimmy330xi Captain 57 Rep 615 Posts Drives: '06 330xI, '04 YZF R1 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Germany iTrader: (1)	That's funny. He is geting the best of both worlds, eating out and eating for free. LOL. I wouldn't walk into a restaurant with my own lunch, that is just plain wrong, he probabbly don't even understand that, and if he can't understand what a simple concept like that is... then he probabbly won't understand other things and that's what you need to think about. This kid can get you in trouble maybe at work and not even realize what he is doing since he has a different perception. just my opinion. I have dealt with people like that and it only gets worse from there. Good luck. __________________ '06 330Xi, '04 CBR600RR, '04 YZF-R1, '06CBR600RR, '10 S1000RR M-tech, Injen, Hamann, Remus, KW, Breyton
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CPI 403_e39 137 Rep 1,809 Posts Drives: 2003 ///M5 Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Calgary, AB iTrader: (7) Garage List 2008 E92 335 [0.00]	A lot of places don't even allow outside food to be brought inside. Either way I think you have been too nice to the noob. Time to tell him to pony up or stay at work and eat his lunch. Or at least eat his lunch later and have an appetizer or coffee with you guys if he just wants to chat and hangout. __________________ \|\|KWVI Coilovers\|\|Matte Black Grille\|\|28% Tint\|\|Iforged Daytona\|\|19X8 19X10\|\|H&S Exhaust\|\|Exotics Tuning Lip\|\|Slimmbones Rear Diffuser II\|\|AngelIBright V3 Angel Eyes\|\| Fog light covers\|\|UUC RK6 Shift Knob\|\|
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leocdmg That Guy 23 Rep 113 Posts Drives: to infinity and beyond Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ iTrader: (1)	Well it depends is this guy doing it because he is cheap???? I mean I am the new guy and I chose to bring my own lunch only because I am on a diet. I still chat and talk sometimes I go but just dont eat. Hmmm maybe its a virginia thing cuz ive seen it a few times here and I am in Mclean
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03-09-2010, 10:47 AM	#8
Cosmop Private First Class 38 Rep 141 Posts Drives: 2009 E90 335i Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, TX iTrader: (0)	Tell him he has to pay to play
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headlee103 Lieutenant Colonel 58 Rep 1,622 Posts Drives: e90 335xi Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Bethlehem, PA iTrader: (4) Garage List 2007 328xi [10.00]	Next time you go out, get up and go to the restroom and find your waiter/waitress. Ask them to find your little tag along and tell him he can't bring his lunch there and he needs to throw it away or leave. I would make sure this is one of my favorite places for lunch, and continue to go back there. Make him feel like a douche!
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RGM135i Enlisted Member 0 Rep 40 Posts Drives: 2009 135i coupe black/black Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Pennsylvania iTrader: (0)	Just out of curiosity...what does he drive?
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ibeclueless What 141 Rep 9,325 Posts Drives: E92 328xi Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Quincy, MA iTrader: (1)	lol what a weird kid __________________ E92 328xi Space Gray Aero Lip \| M3 Side Skirts \| CF Performance Spoiler \| ACS Roof \| Gloss Black Grilles \| LUX H8 Angels \| BMW Performance Exhaust My E92 Photos
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Couch Colonel 142 Rep 2,900 Posts Drives: E92 335i Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Houston iTrader: (0) Garage List 2007 E92 335i [0.00]	I could see if he wanted to go every once in a while, even not eat just try and get familiar with all of you. But bring his brown bag lunch with yall? Wow. I wouldn't knock him though if he was just wanting to go along. Actually reminds me of a friend growing up. No matter where we ate with his family (large family) he brought mcdonalds. One of the pickiest eaters ever.
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MTV Banned 241 Rep 1,906 Posts Drives: E60 M5, Volvo S60R Join Date: May 2007 Location: Montreal iTrader: (1)	Just tell him straight up man. Be like buddy, we don't mind you coming out with us... but you gotta stop bringing your own food!
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Hawkeye Brigadier General 2070 Rep 4,365 Posts Drives: '07 Z4 Coupe, '21 X3, '16 GMC Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Iowa iTrader: (0) Garage List 2016 GMC Sierra SLT [10.00] 2008 Yamaha R6 [9.00]	I would slip the waitress/waiter a $5 and ask them to tell him that outside food is not permitted. After a few places do that he will probably stop coming or just start buying food. __________________ 2007 Z4 3.0si Coupe • 6 MT • Black Saphire Metallic • PP • SP 2016 GMC Sierra SLT Z71 Premium Plus 4x4 2017 Harley StreetGlide • Denim Black • V&H Tune 2021 BMW x30i • Phytonic Blue Metallic • Fully loaded
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Peanuto Private First Class 63 Rep 122 Posts Drives: E92 335i Lemans Blue M-sport Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Maryland iTrader: (0)	Call around, find 5 or 6 places that DO NOT ALLOW OUTSIDE FOOD. And only go there. Act like it is coincidence. Then when he eventually gives up go back to normal.
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Scorpion Major 162 Rep 1,210 Posts Drives: Nothing Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Nowhere iTrader: (0)	I want to try this at McDonalds and see if they kick me out lol.
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Alexander Mad tyte EuR0 style boooi <--- Joke 212 Rep 2,472 Posts Drives: E30, E85, MKVI Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Deal's Gap iTrader: (0)	I hate people like that. I'd tell him straight up. Salt the Snail...
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Gavin@MMW Brigadier General 406 Rep 3,879 Posts Drives: MMW Supercharged E90 328i Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 818/805 iTrader: (18)	OK i saw this thread and showed it to my lady, who is currently a server at 2 places and a full time student. she says: bringing in your own food to a restaurant is totally wrong. from a servers point of view thats taking money directly out of their pockets. which in turn will get you guys bad service, or some tampered food. her advice: tell him "your more then welcome to come to lunch with us, if you want to buy lunch" hes the new guy, you gotta check him a little bit
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