[Tommy-G]

Although I love being married 99% of the time, I wish I had Sara problems.
Dating sounds fun for about 5 minutes. Actually, "dating" sounds horrible maybe its the proposition of pee-pee touching that sounds exciting

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Sara

A has already met my daughter accidentally so....

and what does that even mean..... NADA!!!

[Sara]

Originally Posted by TommyG-inFlaNow

Although I love being married 99% of the time, I wish I had Sara problems.
Dating sounds fun for about 5 minutes. Actually, "dating" sounds horrible maybe its the proposition of pee-pee touching that sounds exciting

Never a dull moment in my life. That's for sure.

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sara

No, B lives here. A, B, C, all live here and are all on the same squad. D lives an hour away. He's a pilot, too, but he's on a different squad. You're thinking of the guy who lives in MS with the two dogs that I went to FL with and had 11+ dates. Ha, he's also a pilot, but not a pilot likes these other guys. He flies for recreation. A, B, C, and D do it for their jobs



I seem to have a thing for pilots now that I think about it.

I met a woman pilot LTA via a dating agency in a group meet at restaurant bar, seems quite a few are registered with them.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by TommyG-inFlaNow

Although I love being married 99% of the time, I wish I had Sara problems.
Dating sounds fun for about 5 minutes. Actually, "dating" sounds horrible maybe its the proposition of pee-pee touching that sounds exciting

It is.

[Tommy-G]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

It is.

I mean at least back in the day you had to have some game and a personality to speak to someone at a bar/school/grocery store/etc.

Now you just need a good profile pic

[4Hockey4]

only thing I think about is how long their alphabet soup is...are they on a pilot forum trying to decide ?

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by TommyG-inFlaNow

I mean at least back in the day you had to have some game and a personality to speak to someone at a bar/school/grocery store/etc.

Now you just need a good profile pic

Exactly. You can be the absolute biggest douche canoe this side of the Mississippi, all you need to do is look good on an iPhone.

[Tommy-G]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Exactly. You can be the absolute biggest douche canoe this side of the Mississippi, all you need to do is look good on an iPhone.

Right

[Tommy-G]

Originally Posted by Sara

Not true. You've got to have personality, be interesting, keep my attention, etc. I won't go on a first date until I've "talked" to you for at least two weeks or so. These guys that match me and 5 minutes into the conversation say "let's meet up tomorrow" are an instant turn off. My answer is always no. I'm not ending up on dateline or the first 48.

You are the minority from what I hear. Good for you....I dont want to be watching the news like "Wonder if thats Sara from Offtopic...."

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

Not true. You've got to have personality, be interesting, keep my attention, etc. I won't go on a first date until I've "talked" to you for at least two weeks or so. These guys that match me and 5 minutes into the conversation say "let's meet up tomorrow" are an instant turn off. My answer is always no. I'm not ending up on dateline or the first 48.

Sincere question: Do you feel the same obligation to have personality, be interesting, and keep someone's attention? Or do you take the 'sit back and let it come to me' approach?

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Sara

Not true. You've got to have personality, be interesting, keep my attention, etc. I won't go on a first date until I've "talked" to you for at least two weeks or so. These guys that match me and 5 minutes into the conversation say "let's meet up tomorrow" are an instant turn off. My answer is always no. I'm not ending up on dateline or the first 48.

That's all very well.. there can be shy guys that may come across wrong at first but would make perfect partners in the long term, some motor mouths may be impressive for a while and in the end it comes down to that look, touch and trust.
A shy guy with an expressive woman may not be an obvious choice but stranger things have happened.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

Fair question and the answer is, it depends. Before I met A, I was really excited to meet him and definitely put effort into communicating daily and whatnot. Same with D.

B and C I really don't put much effort in as I'm too overwhelmed right now. But B still reaches out and I respond but only when he does the reach.

If you're not willing to put effort into B and C then why even keep them on the radar? I know you've just been through a very traumatic situation, but at the end of the day people make time for the things they want to make time for. If you're not putting any effort into those people then that's an indication that you're not interested.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

My real life guy friend (no offense guys) says B is better suited for me than A. B asked me to lunch yesterday, but I said no, though I'm going to let him take me sometime next week to lunch. That's harmless in my mind.

That's manipulative in my mind. You've already said you're not interested. If you're not genuinely interested, don't waste his time or yours.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

I don't think it's manipulative. He knows I am seeing A and yet he reached out to me first. He can't expect me to just completely drop A when I haven't even had a one on one with him. I am interested in a lunch date with him, just not yesterday. This is regular dating to me. Some people are a higher priority than others. Even if dating doesn't work out, then nothing wrong with having him (B) as one of my guy friends.

So you are interested in B to some degree after all?

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

I don't know. He seemed nice and kind for the 2 hours I was talking with him in a group setting last month. But I don't know what he's going to be like one on one. Could be a completely different person. I don't know. I could be interested, but I can't say for sure until after I've had the opportunity alone with him one on one.

Gotcha.

So basically the gist is this: You met up with A, who had B and C in tow. Everyone disperses, and you decide that you like A. You initially have less interest in B and C than A, but you have now been pursued by all so you are allowing A, B, and C a chance with you. You also have D that you have an interest in. A is currently the front runner of the ABC group, and is currently tied with D as far as your interest is concerned. Your interest in all of them is of varying levels. You also have E in the picture (Mississippi person) that you have had 11+ dates with.

Does that about sum it up?

[Tommy-G]

I have to take Saras side on this. As far as we know, she has not expressed exclusivity to anyone. Therefor she is free to date any and all the guys she wants.
However, as a society we tend to think its OK for guys and maybe not for girls.

The only sketchy part about this is that these guys are in the same circle or friends. I would say to make it completely clean, if she offered to pay her own way for lunch then there is no manipulation implied or not to a lunch date.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

I just want to have fun. I'm not looking to get married tomorrow or have kids, etc. I'm having fun, that's what dating is about. If one of these guys, or someone else completely is someone I find that I like spending more time with than not, then I'm not opposed to being taken off the market. Until then, I'm having my fun. At least that's how I feel about it for today. Subject to change.

That's cool, you do you. But I do sincerely hope that anyone that is using dating apps trying to find a meaningful, long-term relationship has been taking notes.

[Tommy-G]

Originally Posted by Sara;

Come again? lol


No, that's actually a good idea. I didn't even think about that. That's exactly what I'll do.

I have very lax views on things like this.
If you lived near me and we wanted to go to lunch, I would pay with no expectation (single or married) but at some point if we are "friends" and we keep going to lunch, offer at some point. Or if you ask me to go somewhere, then you can pay.

I know I went off to left field but...or maybe I'm asking you to lunch

[Sara]

Originally Posted by TommyG-inFlaNow

I have very lax views on things like this.
If you lived near me and we wanted to go to lunch, I would pay with no expectation (single or married) but at some point if we are "friends" and we keep going to lunch, offer at some point. Or if you ask me to go somewhere, then you can pay.

I know I went off to left field but...or maybe I'm asking you to lunch

Perfect, where are you taking me? Lol

[Tommy-G]

Originally Posted by Sara;

Perfect, where are you taking me? Lol

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

That's cool, you do you. But I do sincerely hope that anyone that is using dating apps trying to find a meaningful, long-term relationship has been taking notes.

Well stated.

I've tried replying to this several times today and...well, I just can't. I'll try a different approach. I'll let the answer come from the internet. As an experiment, I'll google "when women just want to have fun" then post the first link google yaks up.

https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-m...ts-to-have-fun

Yes, I think this gets the point across nicely.